Comments on: Yo, that’s gay http://pookiesisnotabear.wordpress.com/2008/05/01/yo-thats-gay/ What can he Lifebloom for you? Mon, 21 Sep 2009 16:00:51 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Pookies http://pookiesisnotabear.wordpress.com/2008/05/01/yo-thats-gay/#comment-263 Pookies Fri, 05 Sep 2008 12:51:06 +0000 http://pookiesisnotabear.wordpress.com/?p=48#comment-263 I appreciate the comment, even if it's on an older post. Take care. :) I appreciate the comment, even if it’s on an older post. Take care. :)

]]> By: Blake http://pookiesisnotabear.wordpress.com/2008/05/01/yo-thats-gay/#comment-262 Blake Thu, 04 Sep 2008 21:26:08 +0000 http://pookiesisnotabear.wordpress.com/?p=48#comment-262 Sort of reviving an old post here but found it after reading your Kara healing guide. Just wanna give a thumbs up to your approach. It's something that crops up quite a lot in trade and even on our guild/officer chat, but unlike you i've not really bought it to anybody's attention, partly through not wanting to create (as you said) potential animosity within the guild, but also through not actually having told most people about myself. It's worth taking on board, so thanks. Good stuff mate. Sort of reviving an old post here but found it after reading your Kara healing guide.

Just wanna give a thumbs up to your approach. It’s something that crops up quite a lot in trade and even on our guild/officer chat, but unlike you i’ve not really bought it to anybody’s attention, partly through not wanting to create (as you said) potential animosity within the guild, but also through not actually having told most people about myself. It’s worth taking on board, so thanks.

Good stuff mate.

]]> By: Pookies http://pookiesisnotabear.wordpress.com/2008/05/01/yo-thats-gay/#comment-100 Pookies Sat, 03 May 2008 17:13:46 +0000 http://pookiesisnotabear.wordpress.com/?p=48#comment-100 I'm glad there are people who see eye to eye with me on this ... thanks for dropping by, Aurik. :) I’m glad there are people who see eye to eye with me on this … thanks for dropping by, Aurik. :)

]]> By: Aurik http://pookiesisnotabear.wordpress.com/2008/05/01/yo-thats-gay/#comment-98 Aurik Sat, 03 May 2008 01:28:17 +0000 http://pookiesisnotabear.wordpress.com/?p=48#comment-98 Nice post - and very much what I was thinking when I read Matt's article. It does irk me that people think it's alright to use 'fag' or 'gay' appended to just about anything when using a racist or misogynistic comment in the same context would have people coming down on you like a tonne of bricks. I also, though, usually try to use a similar approach to that you use, gently prodding people with silly remarks when they append 'is sooo gay' to things. Though I sometimes really do get tired of hearing it over and over again I don't think any remarks which are anti-hetero or generally nasty really work and, in the end, will just impact negatively on the whole issue. Luckily hardly anyone uses 'fag' over here except in the context of a cigarette ;) /subscribe /hug /vanish Nice post – and very much what I was thinking when I read Matt’s article.

It does irk me that people think it’s alright to use ‘fag’ or ‘gay’ appended to just about anything when using a racist or misogynistic comment in the same context would have people coming down on you like a tonne of bricks.

I also, though, usually try to use a similar approach to that you use, gently prodding people with silly remarks when they append ‘is sooo gay’ to things. Though I sometimes really do get tired of hearing it over and over again I don’t think any remarks which are anti-hetero or generally nasty really work and, in the end, will just impact negatively on the whole issue.

Luckily hardly anyone uses ‘fag’ over here except in the context of a cigarette ;)

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]]> By: Pookies http://pookiesisnotabear.wordpress.com/2008/05/01/yo-thats-gay/#comment-97 Pookies Fri, 02 May 2008 22:18:50 +0000 http://pookiesisnotabear.wordpress.com/?p=48#comment-97 Thanks for calling me out on that Phaelia ... I was really angry when I wrote this post, and I shouldn't have said what I did. It was actually really hypocritical of me. I've edited my post, but I will, of course, leave your comment up (I realize that I can't completely undo what I said!). Thanks for your comment. :) To queerunity: While that is a possible approach, I really prefer the "no one gets hurt" method of dealing with this ... the last thing I want to do is create animosity between myself and my guild members! Thanks for calling me out on that Phaelia … I was really angry when I wrote this post, and I shouldn’t have said what I did. It was actually really hypocritical of me. I’ve edited my post, but I will, of course, leave your comment up (I realize that I can’t completely undo what I said!). Thanks for your comment. :)

To queerunity: While that is a possible approach, I really prefer the “no one gets hurt” method of dealing with this … the last thing I want to do is create animosity between myself and my guild members!

]]> By: Phaelia http://pookiesisnotabear.wordpress.com/2008/05/01/yo-thats-gay/#comment-96 Phaelia Fri, 02 May 2008 17:28:46 +0000 http://pookiesisnotabear.wordpress.com/?p=48#comment-96 I do think your way of handling situations like the above is a good one. It points out, "hey, I'm actually gay and I don't think you understand what you're saying." I'm sure it diffuses the situation in a positive manner, too. I do think your way of handling situations like the above is a good one. It points out, “hey, I’m actually gay and I don’t think you understand what you’re saying.” I’m sure it diffuses the situation in a positive manner, too.

]]> By: Phaelia http://pookiesisnotabear.wordpress.com/2008/05/01/yo-thats-gay/#comment-95 Phaelia Fri, 02 May 2008 17:25:31 +0000 http://pookiesisnotabear.wordpress.com/?p=48#comment-95 I appreciate the aversion to derogatory words like "fag" and I've been trying to strike the insiduous "that's gay" response from my day-to-day language because I can appreciate that it's offensive. It's surprising to see the word "fucktard" in the above post, though. That word, while receiving similarly common usage, has an infinitely worse connotation. I appreciate the aversion to derogatory words like “fag” and I’ve been trying to strike the insiduous “that’s gay” response from my day-to-day language because I can appreciate that it’s offensive.

It’s surprising to see the word “fucktard” in the above post, though. That word, while receiving similarly common usage, has an infinitely worse connotation.

]]> By: queerunity http://pookiesisnotabear.wordpress.com/2008/05/01/yo-thats-gay/#comment-93 queerunity Fri, 02 May 2008 14:50:46 +0000 http://pookiesisnotabear.wordpress.com/?p=48#comment-93 i just start saying "that is so straight" or "yuck so hetero" and people are like what that makes no sense. and then i retort well neither is thats so gay, and they get my point. http://www.queersunited.blogspot.com i just start saying “that is so straight” or “yuck so hetero” and people are like what that makes no sense. and then i retort well neither is thats so gay, and they get my point.

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]]> By: Pookies http://pookiesisnotabear.wordpress.com/2008/05/01/yo-thats-gay/#comment-91 Pookies Fri, 02 May 2008 04:39:23 +0000 http://pookiesisnotabear.wordpress.com/?p=48#comment-91 Thanks so much for your comment, Anna. :) It isn't always easy to keep a cool head in all situations, but I try to think about the irreversible damage that could be done if I just go apeshit on someone as opposed to trying to play it off as a joke. That usually makes the decision pretty easy, lol. Thanks so much for your comment, Anna. :) It isn’t always easy to keep a cool head in all situations, but I try to think about the irreversible damage that could be done if I just go apeshit on someone as opposed to trying to play it off as a joke. That usually makes the decision pretty easy, lol.

]]> By: Anna http://pookiesisnotabear.wordpress.com/2008/05/01/yo-thats-gay/#comment-90 Anna Fri, 02 May 2008 02:20:12 +0000 http://pookiesisnotabear.wordpress.com/?p=48#comment-90 This is one of those things that bugs me too - and I think, by far, that your response is the best I've heard for dealing with it. The person gets the point, without having hurt feelings, and the whole thing becomes funny. Good for you for picking your battles - I'm not sure I' could have that self control :) This is one of those things that bugs me too – and I think, by far, that your response is the best I’ve heard for dealing with it. The person gets the point, without having hurt feelings, and the whole thing becomes funny. Good for you for picking your battles – I’m not sure I’ could have that self control :)

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